Pain: The Back-Door to Wisdom

It has been said, many times in my life, that pain is the unwanted blessing from the Lord. I know from experience, as any number of you do also, that it is true.

I hate pain, painful experiences, and seeing other people, animals, and any living creature suffering pain. However, I also admit that in all my experiences, the truly most valuable lessons in my life, have come about through pain. It has been the single most useful experience that brought me closer, and keeps me closest, to my Risen Savior. I would suffer all those painful experiences again gladly, if I knew then that they would bring me to where I am now, and where I am going at the end. But I still hate pain; and very much long for the day that it will no longer be necessary as a learning, or warning, tool.  -g.w.

A word from my first mentor, Chuck Swindoll:

I had lunch recently with a businessman who runs his own company. As we talked, the subject of wisdom kept popping up in our conversation. So I asked, “How does a person get wisdom? I realize we are to be men of wisdom, but few people ever talk about how it is acquired.”

His answer was quick and to the point: “Pain.”

I paused and looked deeply into his eyes. Without knowing the specifics, I knew his one-word answer was not theoretical. He and pain had gotten to know each other rather well.

It was then I quoted from the first chapter of James: “When all kinds of trials and temptations crowd into your lives, my brothers, don’t resent them as intruders, but welcome them as friends! Realise that they come to test your faith and to produce in you the quality of endurance. But let the process go on until that endurance is fully developed, and you will find you have become men of mature character, men of integrity with no weak spots” (James 1:2-4, Phillips).

There is no shortcut, no such thing as instant endurance. The pain brought on by interruptions and disappointments, by loss and failure, by accidents and disease, is the long and arduous road to maturity. There is no other road.

But where does wisdom come in? James explains in the next verse: “And if, in the process, any of you does not know how to meet any particular problem he has only to ask God—who gives generously to all men without making them feel guilty—and he may be quite sure that the necessary wisdom will be given him” (1:5).

As I see it, it is a domino effect. One thing bumps up against another, which, in turn, bumps another, and in the long haul, endurance helps us mature. Periodically, however, we will find ourselves at a loss to know what to do or how to respond. It’s then we ask for help, and God delivers more than intelligence and ideas and good old common sense. He dips into His well of wisdom and allows us to drink from His bucket, whose refreshment provides abilities and insights that are of another world. Perhaps it might best be stated as having a small portion of “the mind of Christ.”

When we have responded as we should to life’s blows, enduring them rather than escaping them, we are given more maturity that stays with us and new measures of wisdom, which we are able to draw upon for the balance of our lives.

By accepting life’s tests and temptations as friends, we become men and women of mature character. Otherwise we just grow old, not up.

8 thoughts on “Pain: The Back-Door to Wisdom”

  1. Well G.W. I know it’s true in my head. I hope not to waste the pain God allows in life as a down payment toward wisdom. Responding to something that happened to me yesterday, my psychologist brother sent me a text (word for word) “If you EVER are inclined to skydive (bungee jump, negotiate with terrorists, take up farming-etc. with other high risk-taking endeavors) I will personally initiate an intervention. I am so sorry. [includes some personal stuff, then…}
    Was feeling sorry for myself until I got your story. Maybe your gift is putting things in a perspective that helps others feel really grateful for their own situation. The first question to ask in heaven is “What was that all about?”
    Thanks Brother D. Maybe wisdom?

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